What you say and how you say it

I used to like to express my opinions but now I’m more about sharing my thoughts. I had to learn a better way because there is enough fighting and arguing, no need to add to it.

When you toss your opinion out for others to read there will be two responses, those who agree and those who disagree. It will start fights with those who disagree and nothing productive comes out of having people agree with you other than more people on “your side”. Either way you have only added to the problem.

We don’t need sides, we don’t need “us against them”, we need just “us”. We need discussions, not arguments. The way that comes about is like this; share your thoughts in a way that encourages thought instead of provoking a response. It’s not hard to do, you just take the emotion out of your words because if there is anger behind them, it will come though.

Also, present your viewpoint without expectation. People of differing views may not get what you say but they will hear you and be able to think on it. Most arguments start because viewpoints are blatantly thrown out there and because people expect the others to agree with them. If you believe what you believe, be at peace with that. People are drawn to peace but are pushed away by anger. Anger will never convince someone that you are right.

Keep in mind that some people just like to fight no matter what you say or how you say it. It’s because they are unhappy with themselves and their life, that’s their problem not yours. You can’t fix others, but you can fix you and you can make the world a better place by what you say and how you say it. – Coov

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