There are lots of things we need to be; honest, fair, reliable, etc. Probably the hardest thing to be is ourselves. We’ve got to know who we are, and unless we’re in a rut, that changes from time to time. Plus, the majority of us spend most of our waking time making money where we have to fit in a box. Those who are involved in organized religion or any organization for that matter, are given a box. The average friendship requires that you fit in a box. Being out in public, a box.
The only time we aren’t under obligation to conform is when we are alone or with our closest friends. There is almost always a pressure to think or be a certain way. We are all actors on some level. With all that conformity, it’s easy to lose touch with who you are and what makes you tick.
This is why I enjoy my alone time. I can think without influence and allow “me” to come through. That’s important if you want to be at peace and to be truly happy. You need time alone to figure things out without being told how to think, how to feel. Life is about making others happy, but we have to be happy for that to work. You can’t give what you don’t have and conforming to others without a break causes a depleted soul and a mind devoid of inner thought.
If you are comfortable with where you are and what you’ve got figured out, you are probably just in a rut. Personally, I keep the unsettled feeling that there is always something more to get, more to understand, something else to create and something new to experience. That’s the stuff that feeds your soul and helps you discover the extent of who you are. I believe that extends past this world and into the next which means we have an eternity of growing and expanding. That’s a pretty cool thought. – Coov