My views on people have been refined a great deal the last several months. This morning I was trying to find the right word to describe my old outlook. Idealist is the term that popped up so I had to look it up.
“Idealists, as a temperament, are passionately concerned with personal growth and development. … Idealists dream of creating harmonious, even caring personal relations, and they have a unique talent for helping people get along with each other and work together for the good of all.”
I can claim part of that but I am also a realist by definition…
“…a person who accepts a situation as it is and is prepared to deal with it accordingly.”
Combining those two traits, I saw things for what they were but I had an idealistic view of how it could be better.
In order for that to happen, people from all walks of life would have to listen to each other to hear instead of to reply. They would have to allow others to be themselves and also respectfully be themselves. I had thought that in some way I could be helpful in in bringing people together and creating understanding that brought compromise and unity.
By now my more cynical friends are reading this and laughing their ass off while others are about to say that I have made a difference with my words and writings. Regardless of where you fit in there or somewhere in between, this is where I am now….
I used to believe that the number of people who preferred to try to get along was higher than those who preferred avoidance or conflict. Unfortunately that isn’t the case. Obviously those who prefer conflict cause more problems, but those who prefer avoidance of issues cause just as much by keeping within their own little group and allowing things to fester even further.
As a result of the negative energy in society, people have become more defensive and withdrawn. Being rude, disrespectful and apathetic has become commonplace and even accepted as the norm. We are in a cultural tailspin and ironically we are going down together because most people don’t want to work together to make things better.
I have grown to dread interacting with the general public and find myself withdrawn in a circle of my own that gets smaller everyday. It isn’t a circle of people who are just like me, I love people from all walks of life. I value the different perspectives it brings. My circle however is limited to those who want to get along, those can accept others in spite of their differences. You can’t change the world but you can choose to only keep company with those who want to change it. In doing so, you create a world within the world, which in the long run is all you can do.
So here’s to those who want to make a sincere effort to get along with everyone. You are the last couple of stitches holding the fabric of society together. You are my people, my circle, my tribe. – Coov