After more than 20 years of marriage, I have to say that Dianna no longer inspires me like she used to. I know it sounds bad, but it’s true.
You see, most of the stuff I write comes from my struggles, the negatives in my life. Every marriage has those and ours certainly is no exception. When life hands us struggles we have options as to how to handle them. We can pretend they don’t exist, we can get knocked down and give up, or we can dig deep and think our way through it. I prefer to dig deep and think my way through it. So that inspirational stuff I write sometimes that sounds like I am so at peace and calm… that is after the storm, after I’ve thought it through. The process that leads up to that is just as messy as everyone else’s process.
So when I say that Dianna no longer inspires me the way she used to, it’s because we’ve worked through the majority of our struggles. I no longer have to push anger to the side to seek wisdom. She inspires me in a different way now, in a positive way. We’ve both grown and we both lift each other up.
I’ve used our marriage as an example, but in all of life, it’s best accept our struggles, our negatives with a deep breath and turn them into positives. Learn, grow and let go. – Coov 😊✌️
HappyNakedFrog.com …making sense out of life.
One of my friends came to visit years ago not long after Dianna and I had first gotten together. After he left she said that she had just realized something… all of my friends were weird. Said she didn’t mean it in a negative way. I told her no need to explain, I understood completely.
My best friends are all individuals who walk their own path and think for themselves. That makes them “weird” in a society where most people find a group to fit into. They go through life like a school of fish, thinking a certain way, wearing certain clothes, feeling secure because they fit and belong in their circle. They have no understanding or connection to those who think differently and no interest in trying to see the point of differing views. Sometimes they jump into another school and change direction, but they always belong to a group.
My friends… are able to stand alone and see the merit of all sides and groups. There is no “us against them” because they also understand the necessity of working together to get along. They don’t create problems and they don’t have a fear of those with different beliefs or a different lifestyle than their own. My closest friends have no tolerance of hatred because they realize that hatred is just fear turned inside out.
My best friends are neither far left or far right, they are just people wanting to get along, live life and allow others to live their life. My closest friends will talk to anyone or help anyone who is trying to help themselves because they see another human being struggling, not because they are part of their group. People talk about “their tribe,” the people who have no tribe, that’s my tribe.
So, think for yourself. Be kind. Don’t add to the division by falling into the rut and false security of only seeing things your way. It’s a mighty thin slice of ham that doesn’t have two sides. – Coov
HappyNakedFrog.com … A place for nature and people to come together.
Starting when I was about 14 or so, I used to ride my bike to a hill that overlooked the town on one side and the country on the other side. It was a church property and behind it was a grove of pine trees with a picnic table under them… loved the way the wind sighed through the tops of the trees. I spent countless hours there alone both in the daylight and at night. It was my spot. I’d look out across the horizon at the farmland with the bypass running through. I loved the tranquility of the land but the traffic on the bypass and jets flying overhead were reminders of people on the move. I’d wonder where they were going and what kind of life they had. Sitting up there at that young age the world was amazing and the possibilities seemed endless and so simplistic.
I look back now at almost 57 and think wow, that was some complicated shit that happened since then. Van Halen got it right in their song, Running With The Devil: “I found the simple life ain’t so simple. When I jumped out, on that road.”
Who knew life had so many choices and so many variations of each choice with every one of them impacting the future in ways that you can’t even begin to imagine. Sooner or later, later for me, you learn to slow down and think. That’s when past choices and regrets start accumulating in your mind. So the key is to slow down, and when your thoughts catch up to you… let go.
Now I’m regrouping once again, ready for a major change. This time away from the flash and excitement and towards a quiet, creative life, connected with and grounded in nature. That’s what we do, make plans, life happens and we make new plans. It’s no big deal if you look at everything as an experience instead of a dissapointment. – Coov
P.S.: pics below are from the spot where I used to sit. One from the actual view and another from just a little higher up with an arrow on the you are here spot.