Response to life

Those who have been trampled by life are easy to spot by either their constant complaining or their relentless optimism.
Usually those who express the most beauty in words, art, music and actions are also struggling the most, or have suffered the most pain. It’s a survival reaction to get away from the hurt and move on to a better place. It’s like being dragged down to the dark depths of the ocean of despair. You can either give up and drown in sorrow or swim hard for the surface and the light.
No matter what happens around us or to us, we are our biggest influence…
Watch your thoughts, they become words.
Watch your words, they become actions.
Watch your actions they become habits
Watch your habits, they become your character.
Watch your character, it becomes your destiny.
You can’t always control what happens in life, but you can create the atmosphere of your reality. – Coov
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Embrace the low places in life

Everyone’s life has high places and low places. How we react to them is very important. When we are up and things are going well, it’s easy to take the positives for granted and to forget to be thankful. Stop and savor the moment, because what goes up will eventually come down.

When we hit those low swings there are two reactions that are detrimental to us getting better. One is developing a victim mentality and blaming someone else. The second is allowing ourselves to become angry. If you do either, that is where you will be stuck until you choose differently. Low spots are actually good for us if we react the right way. Instead of wondering why this is happening, consider what you can learn from it. We learn very little during good times. Our best wisdom and deepest growth are usually the result of hardship and sorrow. Don’t be afraid to step away from the crowd to be alone and sort things out. It’s okay to ask others for their thoughts, but the real answers, the ones that you are searching for, are inside yourself.

Enjoy the good times and don’t take them for granted, they are a gift. Embrace the harder times because they are also a gift. Laughter feeds the soul, sorrow makes the soul stronger and more resilient.  Learn from all that life hands you and you will gain valuable understanding that will bring you peace. – Coov

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Disaster or nature?

This is one of those posts that may not be very popular, but the truth isn’t always handy. While I am sympathetic towards the loss of life and also the loss of property from the wildfires, there is another side to consider.

California is a beautiful state with a wide variety of natural wonders but it comes at a price. Johnny Carson said it well when he said that California is the only state that has earthquakes to start mudslides to put out it’s brush fires. I understand that this time was reportedly started by sparks from power lines needing to be better maintained. However, the potential is always there whether it is from a campfire, or even lightning. Forests have been catching fire since the beginning of time, burning out and regrowing.

Same goes for having a house near the ocean. It is a matter of time until a hurricane comes ashore and wipes out everything in its path. Or, going back to California, the cliffs erode and homes fall into the ocean.

It’s not really a disaster so much as nature taking its course. We choose what we want to build and where we want to build it, nature decides if it stays.

Our house for example is in the woods. We love it back here, surrounded by trees. Winter is coming on though and our power line runs down our long driveway. We can expect ice storms to drop trees on our power line and because of where we are, we can also expect longer outages than most. Years ago we were without power for two and a half weeks. And, with trees across the driveway we can’t get out until the trees are cut. There is also the potential that a large tree could fall on our home due to the ice in winter or a hurricane, or tornado in the summer. There is always the chance that we will be in the house when it happens. We chose this land and we chose to leave the trees when we cleared out to put our home here. Choices come with consequences that we have to be willing to accept.

I’m not dismissing the heartbreak of loss of life and the inconvenience of loss of property, however when these things happen they are a natural act of the earth in motion. Nature has cycles and we are subject to the results of those cycles. We can be only be thankful for the time the Creator has given us to live on this fascinating planet, wherever we choose to live. – Coov

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