Society has a heart problem. Not a drug problem, a gun problem or a violence problem. Added or stricter laws aren’t the answer as we have laws for pretty much everything these days (including one they are trying to put in place that requires you to register your bicycle with DMV each year). Everything is regulated with laws but they are ineffective if people’s hearts aren’t in a good place.
A news article I read this morning reminded me of this. Long standing laws make it clear clear that you can’t;
…have an open container of alcohol in your vehicle.
…drive recklessly.
…drive impaired.
…drive with your license revoked.
…try to run people over with your vehicle.
…flee from an officer in your vehicle.
…communicate threats.
…possess cocaine.
…possess drug paraphernalia.
…point a firearm at someone without good reason.
…possess a firearm if you are a convicted felon.
Everyone knows that you can’t do any of these things yet one guy did them all here in our county recently. Laws don’t stop misguided people from doing things, they only stop those who respect those laws and don’t want the repercussions that come along with breaking them.
So this is for anyone wanting more laws or toughening of current laws; instead of asking for more restrictions for those of us who obey laws, put your effort into figuring out how to change people who break the law. Instead of wanting more people sent to prison, figure out how to keep more people out and productive, (when possible). The system isn’t broken, people are and more laws aren’t going to stop them or fix them. Quit asking for more government regulation. We have a heart problem. Figure out what’s causing that and you’ll make a difference. – Coov
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Life Happens

Starting when I was about 14 or so, I used to ride my bike to a hill that overlooked the town on one side and the country on the other side. It was a church property and behind it was a grove of pine trees with a picnic table under them… loved the way the wind sighed through the tops of the trees. I spent countless hours there alone both in the daylight and at night. It was my spot. I’d look out across the horizon at the farmland with the bypass running through. I loved the tranquility of the land but the traffic on the bypass and jets flying overhead were reminders of people on the move. I’d wonder where they were going and what kind of life they had. Sitting up there at that young age the world was amazing and the possibilities seemed endless and so simplistic.

I look back now at almost 57 and think wow, that was some complicated shit that happened since then. Van Halen got it right in their song, Running With The Devil: “I found the simple life ain’t so simple. When I jumped out, on that road.”

Who knew life had so many choices and so many variations of each choice with every one of them impacting the future in ways that you can’t even begin to imagine. Sooner or later, later for me, you learn to slow down and think. That’s when past choices and regrets start accumulating in your mind. So the key is to slow down, and when your thoughts catch up to you… let go.

Now I’m regrouping once again, ready for a major change. This time away from the flash and excitement and towards a quiet, creative life, connected with and grounded in nature. That’s what we do, make plans, life happens and we make new plans. It’s no big deal if you look at everything as an experience instead of a dissapointment. – Coov

P.S.: pics below are from the spot where I used to sit. One from the actual view and another from just a little higher up with an arrow on the you are here spot.


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The truth about the wall and Trump and Democrats…

Ranchers on the Mexico/U.S border have been asking for help for the last 30 years. They have drug smugglers coming through their land and “coyotes” smuggling people across. They are living on land that has been in their family for many generations and they don’t feel safe.

About the coyotes… they get paid good money to smuggle people across but have no regard for their safety or well being. Lots of times people get abandoned in the middle of nowhere. A lady I know along with her husband carry gallons of water out into the dessert to set up water stations so that less of the immigrants will die from dehydration. The dessert is littered with bodies of men, women and children.

Lots of the people who do make it across don’t have enough money to pay the smuggling fees and are placed in hidden sweatshops where they have to work off their debt for pennies on the dollar. Many of the women and children end up being victims of sex trafficking so they can work their debt off, again for pennies on the dollar.

Maybe we don’t need a “wall” across the entire border but we need a barrier of some sorts in strategic places to help curtail this and also to help out the border patrol who has also been begging for help for 30 years. Border patrol officers btw undergo some of the most rigorous training of any group because the atmosphere they work in is very dangerous and unpredictable.

Trump has a big mouth. He says mean, stupid and hurtful things. I don’t like it at all. However that doesn’t automatically make everything he’s trying to do wrong or anyone who supports him wrong.

Democrats have some real idiots at the helm, that doesn’t automatically make everything that they do wrong or anyone who supports them wrong.

One thing I learned quickly when answering calls in law enforcement is that there are two sides to every story and most often the truth is somewhere in the middle. The all or nothing, its my side or no side approach that pervades social media is childish and is turning lots of normally reasonable people into idiots.

Lighten up, take a breath and quit ripping each other apart. To those of you who love to fight, truth is, your facts are correct but they are only partial facts which makes them bullshit, that’s why people are fighting. – Coov


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Free To Be Happy

Negativity only has as much power as you give it. When people are rude or inconsiderate, when the line at the store is long and one register is open… those things only last as long as you hang on to them.

You control what you listen to on the radio, watch on the TV or read on the internet. If it drags you down… turn it off. If people use you, it’s because you let them. If you hate your job, find another one. Owe too much, quit buying stuff.

Whatever negativity you have dragging you down, let it go. Walk outside and breathe. Find a quiet spot so you can find yourself and get back to who you were before you conformed and allowed the world to burden your heart and soul. Unblock your connection to the Creator and smile, because you are free to be as happy as you want to be. – Coov

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My people, my circle, my tribe.

My views on people have been refined a great deal the last several months. This morning I was trying to find the right word to describe my old outlook. Idealist is the term that popped up so I had to look it up.
“Idealists, as a temperament, are passionately concerned with personal growth and development. … Idealists dream of creating harmonious, even caring personal relations, and they have a unique talent for helping people get along with each other and work together for the good of all.”
I can claim part of that but I am also a realist by definition…
“…a person who accepts a situation as it is and is prepared to deal with it accordingly.”
Combining those two traits, I saw things for what they were but I had an idealistic view of how it could be better.
In order for that to happen, people from all walks of life would have to listen to each other to hear instead of to reply. They would have to allow others to be themselves and also respectfully be themselves. I had thought that in some way I could be helpful in in bringing people together and creating understanding that brought compromise and unity.
By now my more cynical friends are reading this and laughing their ass off while others are about to say that I have made a difference with my words and writings. Regardless of where you fit in there or somewhere in between, this is where I am now….
I used to believe that the number of people who preferred to try to get along was higher than those who preferred avoidance or conflict. Unfortunately that isn’t the case. Obviously those who prefer conflict cause more problems, but those who prefer avoidance of issues cause just as much by keeping within their own little group and allowing things to fester even further.
As a result of the negative energy in society, people have become more defensive and withdrawn. Being rude, disrespectful and apathetic has become commonplace and even accepted as the norm. We are in a cultural tailspin and ironically we are going down together because most people don’t want to work together to make things better.
I have grown to dread interacting with the general public and find myself withdrawn in a circle of my own that gets smaller everyday. It isn’t a circle of people who are just like me, I love people from all walks of life. I value the different perspectives it brings. My circle however is limited to those who want to get along, those can accept others in spite of their differences. You can’t change the world but you can choose to only keep company with those who want to change it. In doing so, you create a world within the world, which in the long run is all you can do.
So here’s to those who want to make a sincere effort to get along with everyone. You are the last couple of stitches holding the fabric of society together. You are my people, my circle, my tribe.  – Coov
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