You can’t outrun the past

For those of us who have had traumatic events in our life, the best way to heal isn’t religion, proving ourselves by being successful, or helping others. It isn’t another new relationship or moving somewhere to start over.

The best way to heal is to stop and be still. Stop trying to keep ahead of the pain, let it all catch up. Feel it, process it and lay it down. If you don’t, you will continue to make bad choices that will cause more hurt that will cause you to want to go forward even faster into more bad choices.

Let the past go. Forgive others and most importantly, yourself. We’ve all made mistakes, we’ve all been through things that have scarred our souls. They will always be there and be a part of who you are, just don’t allow them to make you someone you don’t want to be. You can’t undo the past, but you can slow down and take smaller steps into a better tomorrow. – Coov

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Leave room in your head for yourself

Shot this pic of a dragonfly in our backyard the other day. The way he’s sitting and looking over the pond is the same way I try to view the world these days, from the sidelines.

If you keep out of the noise, you can hear better. Stay back away from it, you can see better. What really becomes obvious is how many people are all up on each other without a view of the big picture and arguing their point like it’s the only point.

Now if you watch that dragonfly for awhile, he sits there in his space but he will fly after another dragonfly if it gets too close and disturbs him. After he runs the other one off, he is back to his spot.

That’s kind of how I work these days. I’ve got my happy place where I stay until something disturbs me enough that I’ve got to get rid of it, get it out of my head. I run it off, let it go and I’m back to my place.

You can’t keep the world in your head. If you do there won’t be any room left for your own thoughts, your dreams, your own place of peace. – Coov


Differences don’t cause division

It’s great to focus on the positives in life, it’s actually a must in order to maintain a good mindset and be productive. Differing opinions don’t matter, they aren’t negatives. It’s part of life and everyone has their view of things that is filtered through their past experiences. We can see things differently and still get along just fine because we want to get along.

However, people with extreme viewpoints are detrimental to the well-being of society. They reject common sense and have no respect for others. They don’t want to hear, they only want to be heard. It’s a mental condition brought on by deep rooted hurt or anger from personal issues that they project on to a cause or belief that they are “passionate about”. It’s their way of venting the built up poisons in their mind from things that they need to handle in their own life. There is no reasoning with them because they have no reason, only uncontrolled emotions.

There are extreme people in all walks of life, all religions, all races and every political side. Fortunately they are a minority because most of us are all about compromise and living life in harmony. So, if you get a chance, tell an extremist to quiet down, get some counseling for those personal issues so the rest of us can have some peace. – Coov

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